From childhood through life to where we are now, we go through a series of experiences and events. Those experiences and events ultimately shape and create the behaviors and patterns that we use to deal with the future experiences we will face.

Some of the things we face in life, we never asked to happen. For instance, we did not ask to be born into the families we were born into. We also do not ask to be in car accidents, or to be abused by people we love.

While there are some things we didn’t ask for, there are some things that we put ourselves in. If we are honest with ourselves, we have made life decisions that may not have been in our best interest.

We choose unhealthy romantic relationships, we have children with people whose character we didn’t get to know first, we make unwise financial decisions, and even dumbed ourselves down to appease others.

Even these choices, however, were a result of what was modeled to us as children.

So what am I talking about here? One word, TRAUMA.

Trauma is connected to so much of our dis functionality. When we think of the word trauma, at least when I do, I think of a massive drastic situation. We don’t consider the smaller traumas that have a lasting impact on us into adulthood.

Trauma can stem from one time events like car accidents or something that violently happened to you.

Trauma can also stem from ongoing stressful situations. Some of these are: bullying, domestic violence, the environment you live in and life threatening illnesses.

A lot of the trauma we have in our lives stems from childhood. As a child there are different areas of development (which I will break down in my next post), that if improperly developed, trauma stems from.

These underdeveloped areas then move with us into adulthood and wreak havoc into our decisions, relationships, habits, and behaviors. In order for us to change these behaviors, habits, decisions and relationships, we much do some internal searching of where the root of our traumas began.

Think of it as tending to a garden. If you just pull the weeds from the surface, they will grow back. Why? You did not get to the root of the problem which is under the surface. The roots must be completely dug out of the ground in or for the weeds to stop coming back. That means it isn’t enough to just forgive once, we must walk in continual forgiveness. It isn’t enough to acknowledge the pain but then you must process and heal from the pain. These are just a few examples.

We must apply this root pulling method to our traumas. In the next few posts, I am going to start breaking down the stages of development. We will look at what they are and what traumas can stem from them. My hopes is that you and I can then be able to identify the areas in our lives where our weeds, or traumas, are rooted.

Once we are able to do this, we can then cultivate healthier systems in our lives. Not only can we do this in our lives but also in the lives of our children, our children’s children and the people around us. We can change the trajectory of generational curses that have been passed down through our families.

Say this out loud: I AM A GENERATIONAL CURSE BREAKER!

Do you believe that?

This week I challenge you to begin to just think and ponder on some of the most hurtful things you have experienced. Reliving some moments may be difficult, however, it is necessary to break free and become your BEST YOU! I will walk along side you as we take this journey and I’m praying for you!

Till next time, be blessed

Ash